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Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff

Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” SheffConsultant & Polyamory Expert


Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamory in the US, and the worldwide expert on polyamorous families with children. Sheff’s first book, The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Families and Relationships (2014), details her 15-year study of poly families with kids and was just reprinted in paperback, and her second book Stories from the Polycule: Real Life in Polyamorous Families (2015) is an edited anthology of writings by poly folks. An expert witness and Guardian Ad Litem with a background in academic sociology, Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, kink/BDSM, and issues facing trans* people. She is the CEO and Director of Legal Services at the Sheff Consulting Group, a think-tank of experts specializing in unconventional and underserved populations. You can find her blog on Psychology Today at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door.

Media worldwide recognize Eli Sheff as an expert on polyamory, with interviews in US outlets like the Huffington Post, Newsweek, The Boston Globe, CNN, and National Public Radio, and international sources such as Semana magazine in Columbia, Mente e Cervello (the Italian edition of Scientific American), Elle magazine in Quebec, and the Sunday London Times. Dr. Eli has also done numerous interviews with online magazines like Momlogic.com and Seattle Met, and podcasts like The Sex Geeks, Polyamory Weekly and How Stuff Works. Her media appearances include several HuffPost live online chats, film documentaries about polyamory and BDSM, and television shows like CNN news, National Geographic’s series Taboo, and the Sunrise morning show in Sydney, Australia.

Dr. Eli has spoken at DragonCon, Frolicon, Atlanta Poly Weekend, Poly Living in Denver and Philadelphia, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and many academic conferences like the American Psychiatric Association and the American Sociological Association.

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    Polyamorous Relationships

    The idea that you can be romantically, sexually and/or emotionally involved with more than one person at the same time is a radical concept in a society that, generally speaking, practices monogamy almost exclusively. That radical notion, however, is the basis of polyamory – a way of being intimate and connected without being exclusive. Polyamory


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